Pat, Phoenix, AZ
A: Being a caregiver is a big responsibility, and one that doesn’t always get the recognition it deserves. It can be difficult to attend to someone who is physically or mentally challenged, and caregivers also cope with the emotional loss that comes when someone they love has changed.
It’s normal for caregivers to experience a range of feelings that include frustration, sadness, and anger, as well as the good feelings that come from helping someone you love.
Although it's not always easy to remember, as a caregiver your first responsibility is to care for yourself. It's both unwise and unhealthy to keep filling someone else's cup while leaving your cup empty.
Focus a portion of each day on doing some small activity that refreshes you, whether it's reading, being outdoors, listening to music, talking with a friend, or some other activity you enjoy.
At least once a week, ask trusted friends or family to take over caregiver responsibilities for your husband. If you can afford it, or your insurance provides coverage, you might consider bringing in a part-time professional nurse or nurse’s aide. However you schedule it, try to schedule a block of time each week that's just for you.
